The Difference Between Words: Embarrassed and Ashamed

The difference between words: [embarrassed] and [ashamed]

► Basically, the word “embarrassed” means having a feeling of emotional discomfort in front of other people. This last part is very important. If we are embarrassed, we have to be in front of at least one other person. We cannot be embarrassed if we are alone. These situations are usually not so serious.

Some example sentences using “embarrassed” are:

- I made a big mistake during my presentation yesterday. I was really embarrassed.
- I was embarrassed in front of my date last night because I didn’t have enough money to pay for dinner.
▼ It’s important to remember that you shouldn’t say “embarrassing” when talking about your personal feeling. We use that when talking about the situation.
- I made a big mistake during my presentation. It was really embarrassing for me.
- It was so embarrassing for me last night. I didn’t have enough money to pay for dinner with my date.
► On the other hand, “ashamed” means having a feeling of guilt because you did something bad intentionally. We can also be ashamed of someone else if they did something bad intentionally. In this case, the feeling is not about guilt but about judgment. In both cases, it’s important that the bad thing was done intentionally. If we cause something bad to happen by accident, we don’t usually say we are ashamed.

Some example sentences using “ashamed” are:

- When I was a teenager, I stole money from my parents. I’m really ashamed of that now.
- Last year, Bill stole his co-worker’s idea and told the boss it was his. He should be ashamed of himself.
- Many people in my country are ashamed of the way the government treated the native people a long time ago.
- I can’t believe you cheated on your exam! I’m really ashamed of you!
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